When we realize that there is something wrong with us. We begin to build defense system called “pretense”. We pretend to be like this but we are not. Thus we begin to build this defense to protect our wounded soul. We develop it so early in our life, we aren’t usually even aware of it. It becomes the core of our identity we become our defenses.

To overcome and heal the wounded soul must consider these areas of her life. One is the spiritual are in which she draw good insights of her well-being and how God works with her. Second the personal area for which she would consider not to be perfectionist or worst than that. Third is the relational area, for which she may fell insecure of so many things. And sometimes if this area is neglected we tend to please others not God.

Fourth is the rational area, this has a great contribution on our self-concept. A woman grappling with a defensive personality has preponderance of misbelieve about God, about herself, about others. If you were raised in away that contribute to developing a distorted and faulty self-concept, then it’s very likely that you developed a number of lies in your belief system. However you don’t believe it to be a lie because you believe that your family taught you. You had no way to discern the truth.

Therefore, your belief system is misshapen as your self-concept. Fifth is the emotional area the dread to be abandon is most considered here in this area. Sixth is the volitional pertains to the decisions and choices we make. Seventh and lastly is the behavioral area the attitude we display tells who we are. Defensive personality brings as individual into a painful way of living. We are empty most of the time. There is very little sense of fulfillment. To develop the sense of fulfillment is a long process of transformation. But first is to consider God about all things. The deep change that occurs when we finally accept the freedom God’s

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